Something happened yesterday.
I scribbled a post entitled SUPER LUCKY inspired by the performance of the Nigerian National football team at the ongoing African Cup of Nations #AFCON2013. It also briefly reviewed their performance in the last few years vis-a-vis the attitude and perception of some individuals to life.
After I was done, and from what a struggle it had been, I tried to post it but realised I had lost the entire entry.
I rushed to my dashboard, searched and searched but it was gone. After a few minutes, it slowly sunk…
I had to write the post all over again. It has taken me no less than 48 hours – and 2 Draft posts I cannot seem to retrieve – to attempt this post (and here’s hoping you see this when I’m done and ready to post).
You see, even with a QWERTY keypad, publishing a blog post on a mobile phone is not particularly very easy from my experience. It’s great to scribble and publish but continuous typing for at least half-an-hour may become tasking for individuals who do not like typing. Sometimes, it feels like sending a long email or having a very long conversation with a friend whilst pondering over how much more convenient a phone call would have been. Often times, when virtual conversations drag, the individuals often consider alternative ways of continuing the conversation such as Video Calling, Face-to-Face meeting, Direct emails or Voice notes.
Hence, after I had scribbled close to a thousand words, I ended up with an empty post page. As I pondered on what next to do, my initial reaction flashed: CLOSE THE SOFTWARE, toss my phone to a side of the bed and sleep.
A number of things discouraged me in trying this post again:
The time it had taken me to put down all my thoughts
The manner the content of the post resonated with me
How I would be giving up right before my first real post
The instability and weakness in my strategy to blog using my phone for convenience and envisaged comfort
Many times things don’t work out in ways envisaged or expected, we are reluctant to try again. Most times for the reasons above, other times because we are just too lazy to comprehend re-investing all the time, energy and perhaps resources to make such happen again.
Other times, we lose faith in ourselves and can’t seem to find the strength to move on. In addition, taking a critical look at the reasons the intended outcomes were not met might further depress such an individual.
What I have learnt to do is to take a short break. No matter how short. Don’t touch that venture or activity (in my case, the mobile app on my phone) for the shortest possible time it would not be grossly or drastically affected. Whilst ‘staying away’, attempt to think through what next to do in your sub-concious. Please note the difference, think through (faintly or remotely or slightly in the background of your active thoughts and senses) but do not analyse while the initial attempt was not successful.
Thinking through the next steps help your mind to find strength. What you will invariably be saying is: I WILL SUCEED AT THIS or MAKE THIS HAPPEN! Once your mind is locked on the fact that you’re going ahead, coming back to the task becomes a natural progression.
Once you are convinced this activity will be attempted in the near future, make a mental note when next you want to ‘face’ that activity.
And when you eventually are ready to do it again, you first review what went wrong the last time and get to work on this task with an open mindset.
Remember, letting go for the shortest possible time was a somewhat ‘thought vacation’ to help the mind rest and set it to ‘retry mode’ before reviewing the activity again.
This has worked for me so many times, and sometimes I am surprised at myself for my ability go back to the things I did not succeed at first in. Also, the results of such activities always rank higher than a few others.
Just a summary of the steps again:
Rest your mind
Think through it lightly
Determine to get it done or suceed
Rest a little more
Re-attempt the task (confidently and with an open mind)
Remember, if the individual does not feel ready to out-do the last attempt, a little more rest is advised. And what if the individual never feels up to it? Don’t think so! Anyone who still feels drained or disappointed, needs to rest the mind and body some more. Don’t forget at some point, the thought processes also double as ‘clean-up exercise’ is conducted whilst the individual focuses on succeeding at the second attempt.
So, trying again can be fun; and a quest to out-do your last attempt doesn’t give anything but optimism!
Just My Thoughts,